“The Week That Changed Everything: A Porch‑Truth Reflection”

Families Parenting/ Families Teens

As a mom there are moment that break us as parents. I wanted to share “The Week That Changed Everything: A Porch‑Truth Reflection” and yes, it almost broke me and before you ask even though David will not admit it broke him to. Come join me as I share Faith, Family, Healing, Humor, and Real Life.

Close‑Up Friday is where we end the day the way we started it — with honesty, warmth, and porch‑truth. It’s where we sit with the week, breathe through it, and let the lessons settle.

And this week? This week wasn’t just a week. It was a chapter. A turning point. A shift. A moment we will talk about for years. It’s a part of my life and my Circus and my Monkes and the way I fight to keep the circle unbroken as I fight to remain grateful thankful and blessed for this thing called LIFE the Lord blessed us with.

This was the week of:

  • Hobart and Charlie proposing and staying her for a week or a year. Who knows? Not me or David.
  • The tiny truck Lisa Marie Bird and Larry blessed us with.
  • Walmart for the restrooms and Mother’s Day Shopping
  • Lunch with Mikayla for her Birthday
  • The engagement I didn’t get to be a part of
  • The goodbye and the hug that wasn’t a hug
  • The drive home and the song that broke me
  • The cleaning marathon to keep me from dwelling on C
  • The rearranging to make a Man Cave for David
  • The donation run to Lisa Marie Bird’s
  • The new phone disaster twice
  • The exhaustion and the tears and the anger
  • The laughter
  • The tears
  • The growth
  • The love

This was the week everything changed — for C, for Mikayla, for our family, and for me.

So tonight, we close the day with truth.

⭐ 1. TONIGHT I AM TIRED — AND THAT’S OKAY and this is why Jelly Roll is my Spirit Animal he helps me remember I Will Be Okay.

This is the week that took everything out of me and even though he will not admit it David to.

Emotionally. Physically. Mentally. Spiritually.

But tired doesn’t mean defeated. Tired means We showed up. Tired means We loved hard. Tired means Wew lived fully. Tired means We gave my family everything we had.

And that is enough. Or is it?

2. TONIGHT I AM PROUD — EVEN THROUGH THE TEARS

Watching C step into adulthood was beautiful and heartbreaking all at once and he broke me in a way I didn’t think anyone could after Suzzane’s death.

Charlie is18. He’s working. He’s building a life. He’s choosing love. He’s choosing commitment. He’s choosing his future.

And even though my heart aches a little, it also swells with pride.

Because this is what we raised him for — to grow, to love, to choose, to become.

3. TONIGHT I AM GRATEFUL, Thankful and Blessed — FOR THE CHAOS AND THE CALM

This week was messy. This week was loud. This week was emotional. This week was exhausting.

But it was also:

  • Full of love even though it contained heartbreak I know my son loves me
  • Full of family
  • Full of laughter
  • Full of memories with Charlie and Mikalya and their love story
  • Full of growth
  • Full of blessings with David

Even the chaos had purpose. Even the exhaustion had meaning. Even the mess had beauty.

4. TONIGHT I AM LETTING GO — JUST A LITTLE

Letting go doesn’t happen all at once. It happens in moments.

Like:

  • Watching Charlie walk toward Mikayla
  • Watching Charlie smile at her
  • Watching Charlie choose her
  • Watching Charlie stay behind
  • Watching Charlie grow

Letting go is not losing him. Letting go is loving him enough to let him become who he’s meant to be.

And tonight, I’m taking one more step.

5. TONIGHT I AM REMEMBERING — WE ARE STILL A FAMILY

Even with C in Hobart. Even with new routines. Even with new chapters. Even with new roles.

We are still:

  • A porch family
  • A dinner family
  • A chaos family
  • A love family
  • A “we show up for each other” family
  • Pet ie Dog family

Distance doesn’t change that. Growth doesn’t change that. Engagement doesn’t change that.

Family is forever.

6. TONIGHT I AM CHOOSING PEACE

Not perfection. Not productivity. Not pressure.

Just peace.

Peace in the porch light. Peace in the quiet. Peace in the chaos settling. Peace in the love that remains. Peace in the future unfolding. Peace in the moment.

Tonight, peace is enough.

7. TONIGHT I AM ENDING THE DAY WITH GRATITUDE

For:

  • My family
  • My home
  • My readers
  • My community
  • My faith
  • My strength
  • My resilience
  • My humor
  • My heart
  • My story

And for the chance to share it all with you.

Thank you,

Glenda, Charlie and David Cates